Young Love

There is nothing in the world as funny as teenagers in love.

They believe that their love and theirs alone is the perfect love and will last for all time.

Life can be quite romantic when someone else is paying the bills.

When the hormones wear off things look very different. The girl realizes that the boy constantly pawing at her is annoying or the boy realizing that her bitching about his needing to bathe more often is true puts a whole different perspective on love.

The bitchslap of reality is a very satisfying sound to someone like me.

I enjoy watching the young relationship grow like a flower in the sun just to be run over by the steam roller of reality in the pot hole infested road that we call everyday living.

In a very real way it is the disappointments in life that make us all human. I remember reading somewhere that ‘A man is the sum of his scars’ and believe that phrase expresses something that a lot of people are not in touch with.

Pain influences how we grow and change as much as anything. It is a direct route to behavioral change. We are hard wired to avoid pain, be it physical or emotional. (Except those freaks that like to put hot candle wax on some one’s genitals, but in that case I think the wiring got crossed up somehow.)

Without that disappointment of seeing your ‘love’ fly out the window you will never gain the perspective needed to function as a reasonable human being in society. Disappointment and change are things that you have to learn to deal with to be an adult.

We all know at least one person that never learned these lessons and is still am emotional cripple, unable to deal with what it takes to be in a relationship with all its bumps, traps, and utter let downs that happen in real life.

I believe that change is necessary to grow. Pain is instrumental to change.

That’s just the way things work.